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      Don't pay for me!
    Okay every time I tell one of my friends this odd ball thing about me, I get the most disturbing looks and reactions. I hate when people pay for me. I know it's a nice gesture and all but when a guy pulls out his wallet and pays for an entire bill - I feel so uncomfortable.

    Not in an "Now I feel like I owe you" kind of way but a, "Oh you must think I expect this all the time now" kind of way. Does that make sense?

    I hope it does because I don't know of any other way to put it.

    If there's one thing I don't want to happen in a relationship of mine being it with a friend or a lover, is one of us to always expect a certain gesture or notion at all times. Too many expectations, lead to too many problems.

    Now, my brothers always feel the need to want to slap me upside the head because they're always like, "THEY'RE SUPPOSED TO PAY FOR YOU, LET THEM PAY!" and I'm like, "But I can PAY TOO! And I WANT TO PAY!"

    However, when it comes down to it -- knowing men and living with them, I don't dare say, "No, no, let me chip in - I don't want you to pay the whole thing" on the first few outings and/or if he grabs the whole check and sticks a credit card on it and pushes it to the side. I've seen my father flip about it and my brothers. Not that I'm afraid but men just have this thing about taking care of everything when they first start taking a female out - whether you're just friends or more.

    I have plenty of friends that have done it and the first few times, though I cringe, I let it happen - after a few times though, I open my mouth. Because then, it's a little bit more routine and we've been out enough to say, "Look..I'm paying this time".

    What do you think, ladies?

    My brothers still preach, "If he doesn't pay...I'm kicking his ass" but whatever. LOL!
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