Times have changed. The days of Rhett Butler telling Scarlett O'Hara he didn't give a damn are long gone. That's a shame in some ways. At least it made dating simple. Nowadays, guys try to be considerate in an attempt to not hurt your feelings. His miscues make it hard to know whether he's really into you, just wants to be friends or would love for you to switch phone plans. While words might not be his strong point, his actions are. Keep an eye out for these kinds of behavior.

• He actively takes an interest in you and what you have to say. He's not just nodding and smiling and checking his watch every five minutes like you're trying to sell him life insurance. There's eye contact. He's actively listening. He's asking questions, relating things you say to his own experiences. If he's really good, he'll remember something you said and incorporate it in a future date. Try not to act too surprised.
• He's forthcoming. He wants you to know about him. This manifests itself in a bunch of ways. He'll share personal details about himself. He'll even be eager to cough up basic factoids such phone numbers, his address and place of work. If he isn't giving up this kind of info, then he doesn't want you tracking him down -- or he's Batman or Superman. So if he doesn't live at Wayne Manor or the Fortress of Solitude, give it up.
• He'll mark his territory. He won't pee on you or anything per se, but he will exhibit some animal behavior. If he's decided he wants you as his female, he won't want to lose you. If there's any chance that you might be snapped up by another male, he'll stake his claim. He'll be tactile with you, slipping an arm around you, possibly posturing and standing up when another guy walks onto the scene. Watch out for some regression to a more primitive man. If you hear grunting, don't panic. It's his way of saying he likes you.
• He calls you back. Despite the stereotype, he will call you back. If you're a girl in demand, he won't want you to be the one that got away, so he'll call you to set up the next date or ask how you're doing. If you're getting calls for no reason, that's a good thing. However, you may want to invest in a good phone plan.
• He'll check you out. You'll bring out his spy skills in a good way. He'll talk to your friends to get the 411 on you. He wants to know more about you -- your past, your present, your likes and dislikes, water hazards, etc. He's doing his homework because he wants to impress you. He's gathering this intelligence so he knows how best to woo you.
• He's flirtatious. Guys get playful around women they like. It's a little dance he's doing around you to show his interest and his daring. However, he's not just being flirty, he's also probing. He's putting on a little show for you to see if you'll reciprocate. The more you play, the more he stays. Now shake that tail feather.
• He's always planning ahead. If he digs you, he won't want you getting away from him. To make sure you aren't prey to some other guy, he'll be making plans for the next date before the current one is over. A full calendar is a good sign.
• He's attentive. He's been listening to you, and knows what you like and where you like to go. He treats you to your favorite things and places. He'll spring surprises.
• He'll blow off his buddies to be with you. It's always tricky managing existing commitments with burgeoning relationships. There are bound to be conflicts of interest at the some point. So take it as a good sign when he'll ditch going out with the boys to see you instead.
• Acts of selflessness. He'll take one for the team of you and him. These can be large or small acts. They can be as small as holding your hair back for when you've got stomach flu, or as large as suffering through a Celine Dion concert and pretend he's enjoying it because you're a fan. Now “that's the power of love.”

Okay, he's doing his part, but what about you? You've got him wrapped around your little finger, but don't get cocky. You can lose him in the blink of an eye with a few classic screw-ups.

• False Advertising. I understand that we all want to impress a potential new partner. It's in our DNA. Only the fittest survive and only the most interesting get dates. So make yourself interesting, but please don't pretend to be someone you're not. Don't say you were a Dallas Cowboys cheerleader if you weren't. Don't tell him you're a party girl when you're a bookworm. This is a double whammy. First, he'll be POed because he believed your character enhancements. Second, you're not the person he's looking for. If he wants the party girl and you're a bookworm, how long do you think that's going to last? Keep it real, ladies.
• You get jealous for no reason. Okay, your previous guy cheated on you. That's a shame, but not all guys are wired the same. So, if your current guy hasn't done anything wrong, then give him the benefit of the doubt. Not even the Dalai Lama is going to put up with being accused of cheating or having you check up on him every five minutes.
• The Princess Complex. You've got a nice little thing going on with him, but suddenly it's all about you and not about the two of you. Who died and made you queen?
• Letting yourself go. You were a dynamite package with you two starting dating, but the backless cockt
  ail dresses and Jimmy Choos have been replaced by moo-moos and flip-flops. Just because you've hooked your dream guy doesn't mean you can take your foot off the gas. If you don't care about your appearance, don't expect him to.
• Taking it too fast. It's easy to get carried away with that guy in your life. You want to be with him every minute of the day, you think you should move in together and a summer wedding would be wonderful. That's all super -- as long as he's just as keen. If he sees you streaking ahead of him, he'll be making a U-turn, so watch your speed, Danica.

Now my nose is semi-clogged and I get that tingling in my nose to sneeze
almost every 5 - 10 minutes - which is preventing me from sleeping.
Death to ALLERGIES! They ruin lives.

Anywho, I decided to kill sometime and write an entry I've been dying to
write for awhile. However for the sake of this person and our
progrssing sitation I didn't. But at this point in time, I don't care.
I want to be straight foward and get it all out of me.

Before I go on, my last post about something happening, I'm not going to
write about lol. Sorry guys but I gotta keep something personal lol.
Anywho moving right along.

Without mentioning names, its the least I can do at this point lol, I am
severely interested in this guy. I have no idea what it is - he is just
completely addicting to me. For awhile, I tried not to pay any
attention to it all - I avoided the idea of being remotely interested
for many reasons. One being that family members of mine, once they met
him, thought he & I should be married.

Mood killer? YES. I mean damn. LMAO. I mean I always thought he was
attractive but I always do things differently than others. I take my
time and talk a great deal....try to figure out as much as possible. And
to be told, "oh, you guys have to end up together...you can get
married!" what in the hell..lmao now why would I even consider anything
now that you've planned out our lives??? LOL so that was a setback.

Then there's the element that he's really good friends with my "people"
(I say people because if I blantantly came out and said who he's close
with..well it would be too obvious LOL) and talks to my "maker"(another
alias lmao) on the regular, etc. I don't know..that issue would be
moreso for him but I could give a damn what the hell my "people" would
have to say. I'm about to be 21 and have never been stupid in relations
before so..I don't really think they should have any say. My "maker"? I
don't think he could give a damn. I mean, he likes him enough already
to keep in touch and hang out so..its not like he has no idea who he
is. I think the prior relations would be a better deal than me bringing
someone who they have no clue about...am I right?

Another thing would probably be my "people's" knowledge of
his....hm..flirting lol I mean I'm not dumb..he's a guy and prior to
this revelation of mine, I knew he was just like any other single guy
trying to enjoy life. Whatever. Shit like that doesn't bother me as long
as people live their lives responsibly and have great intentions.

I honeslty feel he's a great guy however, I have no idea where he's at
in his life and if he would even consider a relationship. Not that I'd
rush anything...I'm not into all that instant crap with people I
genuinely feel for. I wish I knew. We keep in touch a lot - not as
much as I'd like but we do which I will admit, I enjoy.

And recently, he gave me the impression that he MAY feel the same way.
I mean, I found out in a completely unconventional way but I'm all for
suprises. LOL. When I read it, my heart dropped and I couldn't help but
smile. I just hope he meant it the way I think he did.

I'm not one to think ahead on things like this, but I do believe this
could be one for the books..

So if you're reading this and you know this is you...now you know.
Hopefully, you'll be kind enough to either stop me in my tracks or
reassure my current thoughts..
:)

Thanks..

What do you guys think I should do?